Motherhood is often viewed as a rebirth for the mother. What an endearing sentiment that conjures up such beautiful imagery. I see a mother with a crown of wildflowers, staring lovingly at her baby, while wearing a long white flowing maxi dress. A mother who now has a purpose in a previously meaningless life. You all know the image.
What no one talks about is that rebirth is not an easy process and it is by no means instantaneous. A lot happens between the birth of your first child and the sacred experience of rebirth for the new mother.
Often times a woman can find herself lost in the process. In my experience, I found myself feeling broken. I tried desperately to put the pieces together after my first child was born. The transition was far from beautiful.
Life does not accommodate you; it shatters you. Every seed
destroys its container, or else there would be no fruition.
And then when I finally felt somewhat whole again, I had another child. It didn’t take me nearl...
Because you are a parent, I know you have experienced that all too familiar rush to get everyone out the door five minutes ago. It seems like no matter what you do, you are always late and inevitably have left something behind.
In the moment, you are mad at yourself, you’re mad at your kids, you’re mad at your husband, you’re even mad at the lone sock that was stuffed into your child’s dirty rain boot. How is it that the dryer keep eating your kid’s socks?
Deep down though, you are more than just mad. You feel out of control and disheveled. You may even yell,LOUDLY. This inevitably brings up feelings of shame and if you are like most of us, shame only leads to more anger. The cycle continues.
Your mind is playing the comparison game and it is stuck on a single question. “How come everyone else seems to be so much more put together than me?” Truth bomb: They are not!
We all struggle with these feelings of inferiority. So let’s get one thing straight. Regardless of how you look or whether y...